You Live And You Learn

Wow. You know, some people really just don't know a single THING about life and how to be an ACTUAL adult in this world. It is just plain sad. So, hubby and I were helping out some friends for the past, oh I don't know, 6 PLUS months and they were living with us. We are talking about a married couple. These people didn't work for a majority of the time, however, the male had a job for a few months of the time that they lived here. Anyways, you would think that the least they could do is keep my house clean and be respectful, well.... NO! Obviously this was too much to ask. You would not believe me if I told you all of the details, but trust me, it gets pretty bad. Anyways, I guess some "friends" really are just out for themselves and don't care who's toes they step on in the process. You know, they wanted to be treated like "roomies", well... sorry, but roomies pay rent and half the bills. Roomies don't sit in PJs all day and only come down and socialize to eat and then go back to being cooped up in the room all day and smelling like trash. No no, they were nearly GUEST in MY Home. That is where thier fallacy lies. I just finally had it at the end. Everyone that would come over would complain about how dirty my house was and how I don't EVER live that this. And... thats exactly right. But, I am no maid and I am certainly NOT these people's parents so I refused to pick up after them, escpecially when it was my paycheck and my hubby's paycheck that was putting the roof over our heads and paid all the bills. Forget that non sense. THEy were the reason I didn't keep the house work up and I just could not take it anymore. Let alone, the landlord was getting upset and said it was time for them to go. Haha. It was time for the boot.

Anyways, just needed to vent. These pieces of trash are out of my life for GOOD and I could NOT be happier. If they were ever "friends", they would not be acting the way they are and disrespected my house the way that they did. Friends don't take you for granted. Also, if they appreciated what they had, they wouldn't have waited til the last minuted to finally GET jobs and take us seriously about getting out on their own. They would have wanted to help bc of the burden they were putting on us. Ya know? Honestly, what was I thinking? I am just too damn nice at times and I end up getting screwed, but not any more. NOPE! Back to to good life in my CLEAN home with my amazing hubby who doesn't treat me life crap like her's does and who actually is supportive and loving and is there for me. I could not be happier and I love my life so much. This is prolly the best decision I have ever made. *Smiles*. No more being taken advantage of.... no more! Tehe.

Also, I now have FMLA at work on a long term basis due to my IBS. I had a colonoscopy recently and it was normal but I have IBS. I am now on medications. I get FMLA three days a month as well. Gah! I am just glad that I taking my health seriously now. Ya know? Time to get better. It sucks really.

Well, I just wanted to do a quick update and let you all know what was going on bc I have been getting a lot of questions about all of this lately and what exactly happened in my house. Bottom line, if you ever want someone out of your home, talk to your landlord, he or she will HELP you. Haha. Love my landlord.... love my life... more updates later. Hopefully I rememeber to do this more often now. Haha. :)

Peace, Love, and Chicken Grease, Heidi Hardin

Everything Changes

So, there have been a lot of changes in my life lately. I just thought that since it has been nearly four months since my last blog, I would take time to share them with you all. Haha.

First off, the last time that I blogged I was about to enter or had just started my Fall 2010 semester in college at school. Well, the semester is now over, the final grades are in, and I am proud to report that I have gotten all As this semester. That means 4 As on my transcript and I could NOT be happier about that. It was hard, I am not going to lie and pretend that it was easy, but it was TOTALLY WORTH IT. I now know that no matter what, I can do it. I did all of this while working a full time schedule at my job as well. Not that I had much time for anyting else, but I DID IT. Thats all that matters. Way to go, right? Um... well... sort of.

Even tought I am totally and completely proud of myself, I keep having to ask myself at what expense did I achieve this goal of straight As. I feel like I have given up SO MUCH! Basically, in the past four months, my apartment has been destroyed by my animals in one way, shape, or form. I think it is because I am hardly home long enough to spend that time and attention that I need to tend to it. Ya know? It literally is one thing after another, and I feel like I lost my closest friend. She doesn't even care about me anymore and now I know this. I tried, she tried, and yet... I look at my phone everyday and she hasn't made the effort to keep it going and maintain communication. Now, I am a firm believer that it goes both ways, but believe me, I have tried and I feel like it is her turn. And, that makes me sad. Literally, my heart is sad. I thought this was my best friend, my "bestie" forever, but I guess people change, as sad as that is and as much as I don't want to accept it.

You know, I don't want to start drama and I am not saying anything bad about anyone, I am just using it as an example of yet another way my life has changed recently. It's sad. I miss her... I wish things could go back to how they were. Truly. But, is it possible? I don't know.

What I do know is that I love my job, I love how wonderful I am doing in school, and I love my life at home and my family. I even get to see my stepson, Evan, more often now because the little bugger finally turned 3 years old. Haha. In fact, for Christmas, we are getting him almost a full week. I'm so excited. Yeys!

Bottom line, in spite of all of the changes going on in my life recently, I am still UBER happy and love my life. Not to mention that we did finally get rid of Abby, the Mastiff, and I feel like I have more control over my animals and my apartment now (even if it is one thing after the next, it would be MUCH worse with her still with us. Trust me). It's a good feeling. Life is SWEET! Love you all.

Mrs. Heidi Hardin

P.S. MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!! :)

Take Time To REALIZE

You know, I really wish some people would just take some time, think about their actions and choice of words and realize how they come off to others and make other people feel. I have been getting a lot of this lately. Too often, I am hearing "I didn't mean it like that" or "this is what I meant to do/say". Well, you know what I think about it? I think that I only socialize with adults and adults should be old enough and mature enough to understand that people aren't always going to like that you have to say or how you feel and that the best thing you can do is stand your groud and be HONEST. I would say that most of the time, when I hear these phrases, people really DO mean what they said or did, they just... are too worried or upset about my opinion to tell how they really feel and be truthful. Well, if I am can be as honest of a person as I and not bullshit around the bush with people, I kind of expect the same in return. I am just TIRED. Flat out.

Physically, Emotionally, and any other way you can think of. I am tired of feeling like I have to "tolerate" my friends and, inside, getting upset because of their actions or words and having to hear excuses. I am also tired of people who are PARENTS (and should therefore be GROWN) getting mad at how I treat them, whenever they won't take the time to THINK about how I get treated and maybe how I treat them in just in return and a result of THEIR own actions. Ya know?

I am an ACTUAL adult, not a young adult anymore and I am ready to live my life as such. I don't have time for people who don't ACTUALLY care about me or people who are just in my life because they "feel sorry for me" or "don't want to upset me". That is how I feel and how LITTLE I think I actually mean to some people. Honestly. And, it's stupid. I would much rather have REAL friends, and trust me, if your not an honest person and can't tell me how you truly feel or feel like you have to "cover up" and make excuse and be, well... FAKE with me, then I am better off without you, honestly.

Now, don't get this twisted. I love my friends and most of my friends I am very grateful to have and I love them dearly, but I don't think I get the same in return from all of them.

Well, I have to go. But, bottom line, with school starting soon and me still working full time, it's time for me to CUT the bullshit. Don't be surprised if that means YOU. You can just ask yourself "how do I make her feel?" and take time to REALIZE on your own or I suppose just ask me. I will tell you. You all know that I will. Love you all. Time to work now. Tehe.

<3 Mrs. Heidi Hardin

It's Been A While

Ok, sorry you all. I am a completely terrible blogger lately. Lol. As in, I haven't been blogging. Haha. A lot has been going on in my life. I just wanted to give you all a quick update, so... here is goes and I will write a longer and more detailed one soon. Promises. I will find the time in the next week or so. Haha.

Anyways, we have MOVED. Yes! Finally. And for once, I am compeltely and utterly happy and content here. I mean, I have loved all of my other homes in the past but this just tops them ALL and blows them all out of the water. I mean, truly. I am an East Sider now, though. Haha. I am still adapting to the traffic. Gah! It's CrAzY!

But, I have finished reading Harry Potter. ALL OF THEM! I am completely DONE. I even read The Tales Of Beetle The Bard. Lol. There is literally NOTHING more Harry Potter than I can read (well, besides Fan Fiction, which I have NEVER been into). Haha.

I am currently reading the Last Song and am pretty far into it already. I have just been such a reader lately. I ADORE It. I Love that my life allows me time to read. Tehe.

Speaking of which, I am going to head to bed after curling up with my kitten faces and my good book. Lol. So, I will write more later. But, LOVE you all. *Smiles*.

<3 Mrs. Hardin

P.S. Bestie becomes Mrs. Delano in LESS THAN 90 DAYS!!!!!!! OMG! I am so happy for her. You should all comment her FB page and give her Love. Tehe. LOVE YOU KASSIE!!!!!! *Mwah*.

School And Learning

I just realized that I left out an important part of my life and one of the other MAJOR reasons that I am SO HAPPY lately. *Smiles*. Well, that is because I am starting school on July 7th as well as all of the other amazing turns that my life has taken lately. Haha.

For those of you who don't know, I am in school for paralegal studies but I hope to become an attorney. I want to get a degree to be a paralegal first so that I can get a good paying job while in Law School at a law firm. Therefore, I am doing an associates and THEN my bachelors and THEN Law School. I am starting back up on July 7th and not stopping until I am DONE! Lol. I'm UBER happy about this.

Finally with everything going in the direction that it NEEDS to be and that we WANT it to go, I am sleeping better at night, feeling better and healthier, and just over all a LOT more satisfied with life lately.

So... wish me luck in school! Haha. I'm doing one class over the summer and then it is at least 4 classes a semester until I am toally DONE and in Law School. I will keep you all posted. Again, this girl is ALL smiles. Ha!

Also, hubby and I revisited the discussion about adoption and in light of all of the changes lately and us having very YOUNG and CRAZY pets, we are waiting until we move to Indy for Law School before we adopt a kid, so... we are talking like 3 years or so. I can wait. Besides, it gives us time to get things calmed down with his Ex and get our pets in line. Lol. Ya know? But, it's nice to know that we have a LIFE PLAN and moving, quickly even, at getting it all accomplished. I ADORE my life and MY HUBBY!!!!!! Tehe.

Now, if I could just get some undertime when I need it from work and Hubby could get custody of his son, life would be FANTASTIC and PERFECT! Haha. I'm joking... but a girl can deam right?

Love you all,
Mrs. Heidi Hardin

Everything is a Better Change

Wow! That’s really the best word to describe how incredible my life has been lately and how amazingly happy I have been. *Smiles*. Have you ever heard the song “For Fiona” by No Use for a Name? Well, there is a line in the song that says “Nothing is the same. Everything is a BETTER change”. That’s exactly how I feel. Not only should you listen to the song because it is amazing and the band is just fantabulous. Haha. But, honestly, it is how I feel. Here are all the updates from the past week or so.

First off, on Monday of last week Stacy got a call from his now employer (Haha… he is actually at work there now) saying that he starts today (5/10) and to be there for a physical on Friday. Well, this is the job he REALLY wanted and has wanted to get for about a year now. So, you can only imagine how incredibly excited we were. Tehe. Anyways, the very next day we also not only got a call saying that we were approved for the apartment complex that we wanted to live at but that they had EXACTLY what we wanted (downstairs with a Fireplace) available on July 1st. Obviously, we TOOK it.

Now, this does mean breaking our lease but we talked to our apartment complex here and made arrangements and straightened everything out with them, so it is all going to work out okay. I’m just SO EXCITED.

Bottom line, we are moving on July 1st to the apartment of my DREAMS, Haha, and Hubby now has an incredible job where he will be making more than I am in just 90 days. I’m really happy for him and happy for the direction that our life is going.
Also, we will be having a fenced in backyard and are ALLOWED to have a Mastiff, so… Abby is now here to stay. I’m happy about it, even though I get UBER upset with her at times. But, at least now we will have the money to train her and she will have a place to run and play. It really will be TONS better. I can hardly wait. Not to mention, my Bestie will literally live right across the highway from me. I have missed her. Yeys! I hope we can finally make some time to hang out. I love her.

Lastly, in light of the extra monies we will be having we will also be updating some things around our apartment (like dining room table, new bed for Evan, and MUCH more) as well as making a plan to be out of debt COMPLETELY within one Year from him starting his job. I cannot WAIT for that day. Should be even sooner provided he will be getting bonuses and such, but… we are setting our goals to make sure we WILL reach them. So, overall, we are being UBER responsible and finally got the break in life that we needed. Praise Jesus!!!!!!

I finally feel like I am moving from “young adulthood” to being an ACTUAL adult and I love it. Finally!

Well, I love you all but it’s time to eat some food and spend some time with my lovely furbabies. Haha.

Much Love,
Mrs. Heidi Hardin

Things To Read

Just a simple list of my readings. Going to update and add to the list as I go. *Smiles*.

Currently Reading:
The Lovely Bones

Reading List:
True Believer
These Boots Were Made For Stalking (A Clique Novel)
My Little Phony (A Clique Novel)
A Walk To Remember
The Notebook
Pretty Little Liars Series
The Clique Summer Collection: Massie
The Clique Summer Collection: Claire
The Clique Summer Collection: Alicia
The Clique Summer Collection: Kristen
The DaVinci Code